No, this post is not about the movie. (Sorry if you're a Bradley Cooper fan and were hoping it was.)
If you follow my personal blog, you know that I've been posting my goals for 2013 and my progress.
One of my goals for this year is to run with someone other than my DH and dog. It may seem like a simple goal, but it's one that terrifies me. Why? Because I'm a HORRIBLE runner.
I'm slow, slow, SLOW.
But last month someone invited me to join her on a group run and Sunday I gave it a try.
I was too slow for the group. (which sucked and was humiliating and which frustrated me beyond belief) but because I went out out and joined them, I was able to snap this picture. (Which I love because in the six years I've been going here I've NEVER seen so many geese on the pond.)
It was my silver lining.
So was trying and failing, because I got over my fear (obviously a justified fear, lol). You're probably thinking I'm not going to try that again, why subject myself to a situation fraught with the possibility of failure, but you'd be wrong.
I've been in touch with the group and will try again with the soon (albeit with modified expectations).
I'm telling you this because over the years I've known writers who tried something, failed, and gave up.
Or who've tried something, failed and have repeated the same process over and over again, learning nothing from their misadventures.
Or those who've tried, failed, and blamed others completely for their failure.
I've probably been guilty of all of the above myself, but I've learned the following from running:
1) If I give up, I'll never cross a Finish Line.
2) If I fail once, I need to learn to adapt my strategy the next time out.
3) It's not the fault of everyone else that they're faster (better/more successful) than me.
I may be slow, but because of these beliefs, I'm improving. I've completed 3 half marathons (13.1 miles) and I took 15 minutes off my finishing time last year. So I AM getting a teensy bit faster.
I feel like I've learned from all of my writing failures (not all "happy" lessons, but things I needed to know). I try to find the silver linings in most situations.
I believe that setting a goal and actually going for it, can be the biggest success of all.
Tell me Killer Friends: What are you afraid of trying? What are your goals for 2013? Have you learned from your failures? What silver linings have you found?
Another scary thing I'm trying this year, is to post free-writings each week on TEN MINUTES TO THE UNIVERSE along with my pal Cynthia Valero.
This week I posted one featuring some of the characters from CONFESSIONS OF A SLIGHTLY NEUROTIC HITWOMAN. Check it out! If you're feeling brave, play along!