Friday, March 6, 2015

Forced Niceness

This morning I saw a news article talking about a man was attacked for shoveling another man's sidewalk.  The way they presented the event at first was as if this good Samaritan got attacked for being nice.

Except it doesn't sound like that's the way it played out.

Young dude takes it upon himself to shovel older dude's sidewalk.  Older dude says he doesn't want his sidewalk shoveled.  Younger dude gives him lip and keeps doing it anyway.  Older dude shoves him and blows snow in his face.  Older dude is now facing assault.

Oddly enough, this reminded me of something a few years back when I was in Colorado.  Our new neighbors decided they were going to shovel our driveway for us.  Without asking.  I told them not to - very nicely - and got attitude.  But they stopped.  The next time they started shoveling my driveway, I had to go out again and nicely ask them to knock it off.  I had my reasons.  I offered my reasons and they looked at me like I was nuts.

Nuts or not, though, my reasons were my reasons and they should've respected that.  Not tried to force their supposed niceness on me.

Now, I don't know what older dude's reasons were, but the young guy should've respected him and his right to his property.  He should've asked permission - 'Hey, would it be okay to shovel your sidewalk?' and if the other guy said, 'no', he should've gone on about his day. But he didn't and when he was told to stop, he didn't bother.  "I'm doing something nice, dammit, and you're going to appreciate it whether you want to or not."

Maybe older dude had landscaping along that sidewalk he didn't want the younger dude messing up.  Lord knows I've accidentally chunked up my own lawn along the edges of sidewalks and driveways enough to know it happens.  And that was me on my own lawn.  How could the younger dude possibly know what the older dude might've planted there?  Could've been prize-winning crocuses.  Either way it doesn't matter because it wasn't his place to force his niceness on someone else. 

Maybe the older dude was just nuts.  :shrug:  Who knows?

Sure there should never have been shoving or blowing of snow into anyone's face.  But it probably could've been avoided with common courtesy rather than 'niceness'.  But maybe that's just me.  Now the older dude is facing assault charges.  But is the younger dude facing trespassing charges?

Just sayin'.

What do you think?