Our own lovely JB Lynn has been doing a little something awesome on Facebook recently. Every day, she posts a status talking about the positive things in her life. And she invites her follows to post something that makes them happy or thankful in the comments.
Frankly, some days I see her post before the caffeine has kicked in and I'm stymied to come up with a single thing. Not that I'm in a bad mood or that I'm feeling unhappy or negative, but the brain isn't functioning on all 8 cylinders yet. Once the brain kicks into gear, I can find things. Because there are always things.
Simple things like I'm awake and breathing. Everyone I love is happy and breathing. I have a roof over my head. I have food in the house. I clothes on my back.
Some days it's hard to see the happy and the positive. I get that. I think we ALL get that. But the more you focus on the unhappy and the negative, the harder life is to take.
I know this girl. She's a cashier at the local store where I shop. She's like 20, appears to be healthy, has a job and a home, seems relatively intelligent... And she's miserable. She makes me sad because she spends so much time focused on the negative in her life, I'm surprised she can crawl out of bed in the morning. She also makes me sad because I know that negativity feeds on itself. And if her attitude doesn't improve - or she doesn't learn to hide it better - she's going to lose her job. Which will make her more negative, which will prevent her from getting or keeping another job, etc. It's a spiral.
'Life sucks' is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She makes me sad partially because I used to be just like her. OMG, I was such a Negative Nelly in college. Bleh. Then one summer, my attitude improved. I don't remember why. I only remember that it improved so much, I had people comment on what a change it was. And after I got a promotion at work, my boss told me he never would've considered me for the promotion before because my attitude sucked.
Just a little something to think about.
So, yay for JB and her happy/positive list! And for her daily reminder that we all need to look for those things in our own lives. Even if a shitstorm is raining down on you, there probably a pretty flower growing somewhere for you to see. Focusing on the flower, believe it or not, will help you weather the shitstorm in the long run.