Monday, October 26, 2015

Hello My Name is Karyn and I'm a Perfectionist

Funny how I didn't think of myself as a perfectionist but know myself to be an anxious person. When I did a little digging I came to realize I am a perfectionist. I also learned that perfectionists are often anxious people. Which makes sense when you think about the cycle of thought it creates. About a year ago I decided my everyday life (ha, is there any other kind?) was lacking some much needed scheduling and organization. I've made great strides in achieving that goal. I still procrastinate over certain things. Writing down appointments continues to be a challenge. Seems so simple. And I don't why it's hard, only that it is. Probably because I don't want to deal with most of those appointments. Procrastination? Also a symptom of anxiety. 
So while I continue to work on last year's goal, it's time to add a new one. Dealing the perfectionist part of the equation. I've done some work with cognitive behavioual therapy and know about self-talk. Very helpful. Highly recommend looking into it if you feel in need of some useful suggestions to get you back on track.

Here are some quotes on perfectionism:
The world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards finishers.  - Kristen Lamb
This post at Writer Unboxed titled Good Enough by M.J. Rose about conquering perfectionism.
If we allow ourselves to remain at the mercy of our desire for perfection, not only will the perfect elude us, so will the good.” – Alex Lickerman, M.D. in Happiness in this World
The Harvard Business Review: How To Escape Perfectionism.
But the world doesn’t reward perfection. It rewards productivity. And productivity can only be achieved through imperfection. Make a decision. Follow through. Learn from the outcome. Repeat over and over and over again. It’s the scientific method of trial and error. Only by wading through the imperfect can we begin to achieve glimpses of the perfect.
Check out The Feel Good Lifestyle blog and Pia Savoie’s post on From Perfection to Action: 5 Simple Tips to (Finally) Free Yourself from Perfectionism.
The allure of perfection is like a mirage. It cannot be achieved, because there is no final destination.
I’m going to work on the letting go of perfect, especially when it comes to my writing. To strive for quality, but not at the expense of finishing. To try new approaches. To stretch my wings. To help others reach their dreams.
To imperfection.
To honesty.
To effort.
To being enough.

4 comments:

jblynn said...

Progress not perfection is one of my personal mottos. Best of luck, Karyn!!

Karyn Good said...

And it's a good one, JB!

B.E. Sanderson said...

I'm totally not a perfectionist. I'm more a 'Good-enougher'. I could probably use a couple perfectionist tendencies here and there. My house might be cleaner. ;o)

Good luck, Karyn!

Aisyah Putri Setiawan said...

Banned complain !! Complaining only causes life and mind become more severe. Enjoy the rhythm of the problems faced. No matter ga life, not a problem not learn, so enjoy it :)

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