This past weekend I went to a writer's group meeting.
The presenter was horrible. HORRIBLE.
He was unprepared, obnoxious and a misogynist. AND he didn't even freaking speak about what he was supposed to because he was too busy stroking his own damn ego.
I'm not exaggerating. His blamed his unpreparedness on being a "good person".
**NOTE TO THE IDIOTS OF THE WORLD** -- If you have to tell people how good, or smart, or kind you are, chances are you're not all that good/smart/kind.
I knew within three minutes that the session was going to be a disaster and yet I stayed through the whole thing.
It's Wednesday, and I'm still frustrated at myself for not walking out.
Normally I have no problem walking out. As a general practice, I sit in the back of workshops so that I can walk out without disturbing others.
Some people think this is rude.
I happen to think that if something is not worth your time, you shouldn't feel stuck.
Side note: It can be challenging to set up speakers at meetings, so this rant is in no way a reflection of the group, just of the obnoxious speaker who wasted 2.5 hours of my life. The last two speakers I saw that the group had, a novelist and a hospice nurse, were AWESOME.
So why didn't I just get up and walk out of this meeting?
1) Because the room is laid out in a way that doesn't allow for easy escape.
2) Because I was attending with a friend, and I didn't want to make her uncomfortable
This is the second time this has happened in the past couple of weeks.
I went to see a play with a friend and hated it too. I wanted to leave during the intermission. (See, I'm not so rude that I'd get up and disturb everyone during the show.) My friend wanted to stick it out.
If possible, the second act was worst than the first.
So I'm invoking a new rule for myself: I give myself permission to get up and get out of any situation that I want.
If people are offended, too bad.
Life is too short to spend being miserable.
Tell me Killer Friends: Do you stay in situations where you're miserable? Do you walk out of workshops? Plays? Concerts? Talks?
(I have to say that I've walked out of workshops at conferences and ducked into others and more often than not found my second "choice" to be worthwhile.)