Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Sometimes being "polite" is overrated -- contains a "NOTE TO THE IDIOTS OF THE WORLD"

This past weekend I went to a writer's group meeting.

The presenter was horrible. HORRIBLE.

He was unprepared, obnoxious and a misogynist. AND he didn't even freaking speak about what he was supposed to because he was too busy stroking his own damn ego.

I'm not exaggerating. His blamed his unpreparedness on being a "good person".

**NOTE TO THE IDIOTS OF THE WORLD** -- If you have to tell people how good, or smart, or kind you are, chances are you're not all that good/smart/kind.

I knew within three minutes that the session was going to be a disaster and yet I stayed through the whole thing.

It's Wednesday, and I'm still frustrated at myself for not walking out.

Normally I have no problem walking out. As a general practice, I sit in the back of workshops so that I can walk out without disturbing others.

Some people think this is rude.

I happen to think that if something is not worth your time, you shouldn't feel stuck.

Side note: It can be challenging to set up speakers at meetings, so this rant is in no way a reflection of the group, just of the obnoxious speaker who wasted 2.5 hours of my life. The last two speakers I saw that the group had, a novelist and a hospice nurse, were AWESOME.

So why didn't I just get up and walk out of this meeting?

1) Because the room is laid out in a way that doesn't allow for easy escape.

2) Because I was attending with a friend, and I didn't want to make her uncomfortable


This is the second time this has happened in the past couple of weeks.

I went to see a play with a friend and hated it too. I wanted to leave during the intermission. (See, I'm not so rude that I'd get up and disturb everyone during the show.) My friend wanted to stick it out.

If possible, the second act was worst than the first.

So I'm invoking a new rule for myself: I give myself permission to get up and get out of any situation that I want.

If people are offended, too bad.

Life is too short to spend being miserable.

Tell me Killer Friends: Do you stay in situations where you're miserable? Do you walk out of workshops? Plays? Concerts? Talks?

(I have to say that I've walked out of workshops at conferences and ducked into others and more often than not found my second "choice" to be worthwhile.)


Joan Varner said...

Being of a "certain" age now I do walk out when something is not an enjoyable experience. Life is too short to waste being miserable. If I'm with a friend and they want to "stick it out" then that is their choice. I will wait in the car with a book. I always have a book with me - just in case.

B.E. Sanderson said...

And now I'm curious about who it was and what he said. LOL. I'm so sorry you had to sit through whatever it was. On the bright side, he would probably make excellent fodder for a tertiary character in one of your novels.

I'd walk out. These days, though, I don't put myself in the position to have to walk out of anywhere. The hermit life has its bennies. ;o) Stepping away from an internet lecture or video or whatever is so much simpler.

jblynn said...

Joan -- the beauty of always having a book with you!

B.E. -- He'd make a good tertiary character if I could kill him off.

L said...

I would want to walk out but probably would not want to call attention. On the other hand, now that I'm a mature woman (old), I might just say 'what the hell' and leave. Life is too short. If you have a book, you could take notes on what was being said to occupy your mind. I love your books so I'm sure you can get something going.

Karyn Good said...

I can get something out of almost any unpleasant situation. But not if it involves listening to a misogynist or some man 'splaining things to little old me? That is where my niceness draws the line.

jblynn said...

L -- LOL, I got a lot of doodling done

Karyn -- I often can too, but this guy was insufferable.

Em-Musing said...

Oooh, interesting question. I have left some functions, but my friend who had accompanied me wanted to leave too. I've faked why I was leaving by asking the person next to me where the bathroom was, as if the speaker would know why I Ieft, right? I always sit on an aisle seat for an easy escape. And sometimes when I had to stay put, I just went into the happy place in my head. Always entertaining there.